Who You Are Who You’ve Been

Who You Are Who You’ve Been

Sam is sixteen years old and his mother just called this morning.  She sounded like she was hurting and unable to cope.  Just last night, she had to call the police once again on her son who has been extremely verbally abusive to her, barricading her for long periods...

If you are forgiven, are you still responsible?

Flip Wilson was a famous comedian and television actor who once used the line, “The Devil made me do it.” At the time it was funny, though pretty soon completely overused. In hindsight, the quote can be a pretty accurate description of the misguidance of our youth, as...

10 signs your kid is contemplating suicide – Part 2

What is meant by distress? A common definition is, “great pain, anxiety, or sorrow; acute physical or mental suffering; affliction; trouble or a state of extreme necessity or misfortune.” From this definition we see that “distress” is more extreme than the average...

10 signs your kid is contemplating suicide – Part 1

Allan is a very troubled nineteen-year-old who has been coming to see me since August. Actually, I’m never sure if Allan will make it to the next appointment. Since we first met, I have been amazed at the amount of emotional turmoil and pain he is in. Every...

The sequence of anger

When something happens that causes us to have strong emotions, the thing happening is referred to as a trigger.  A trigger could be either a good or bad reaction.  All behaviors are preceded by a trigger of some kind. The secrets of anger 1. Things don’t make you...

9 tips to reduce stress

Over the past few months I have seen an increasing rise in referrals for stress and anxiety, and would like to share with you some skills you can use when feeling overwhelmed. Here are some examples of how stress and anxiety can disable a person. Gene, who was...

Is my child an addict? 7 ways to check

Josh is only nine years old, yet he’s an addict. How is that possible? You’re wondering where he gets his drugs from, how does his addiction manifest itself and if there are treatment plans. I’ll answer all of those questions, but first let me explain that Josh is not...